Dear Merrie D. Anne, my boyfriend is always too busy for me

Merrie D. Anne, Advice Columnist

Dear Merrie D. Anne,

My boyfriend is always too busy for me, and we make plans and then it gets shut off either because of work or just because he claims he had made “other plans with his friends before making plans with me.” How do I even deal with that??

I get mixed signals all the time, and when I tell him something hurts my feelings, he turns it on me and makes me feel bad. Then pretty much I apologize and he doesn’t which makes it look like it was my fault when it wasn’t. I just need a relationship coach in general. I’m sorry this is so long, I just had to get it out. I love him so much and really don’t want to lose him, I just don’t know what to do anymore.


Working too hard for attention


Dear Working too hard for attention,

Try to talk to him about it. If this behavior from him continues, and you have told him what is bothering you, you should really consider getting out of the relationship. I know someone who was in the same situation you are in, and she recently got out of the relationship. She is now happier than she has ever been. Don’t let anyone else bring you down. Know your worth. If you tell him what is bothering you and he disregards it, along with making it seem like it is your fault, that is a red flag. You should do what you think is right and what would make you the happiest. Follow your heart, and listen to your gut instinct.


Merrie D. Anne